LADIES, STAY WOKE!

         I have come to realize over time that we ladies have to stay woke! I mean, the rate at which ladies nowadays feel entitled to men’s money irks me. I do not want to sound angry, but, as a lady, you have to complement your man, you have to encourage him. I have heard stories from men who some ladies feel entitled to their money, and, they just generalize their decision on ladies. I mean, no one hates money, but, work hard, and, make your own money, too. It is normal to ask for a helping hand, but, you have to be humble about it, you just can’t say you need something from him, and, he has to do it no matter what. Guys have gone beyond that level of entitlement o. Ehn, you are my boyfriend, and, you know I will be needy sometimes, and, you saw that I was jobless when you approached me, this, and, that; madam, if you both are not legally married, he doesn’t own you yet, don’t forget that. Have you met intelligent and hardworking ladies? Ladies who fend for themselves, ladies who are okay on their own; the majority of them sweeps men off their feet, because, some are even humble with it. I understand that some of these ladies are proud, but, you won’t even know the majority’s capability until you sit and converse with them. It is only the mediocre that says her man is an ATM. Our men's money truly tastes different, but, we don't have to be all entitled over it.

      I read a conversation online sometimes back, maybe or maybe not it was scripted, I am not sure, but, that conversation got me displeased. You are in a romantic relationship, both of you are really into each other, you both have been fine all along, but, should it be heard that the only thing that made the guy love you less is your level of intelligence? It was so evident that this lady in question hasn’t been contributing anything sensible in the relationship. All she does is stay home, see movies, when it is BBNaija season, sees it throughout, sees Teddy Babyface show, she literally contributes nothing asides from all these. Time went on, and, this guy met another lady, a very intelligent one, she has got ideas about general subjects; politics, education, career, etc. She was never quiet amid intelligent discourses; she would contribute in a way or two, no matter how little. Like, have you ever heard some ladies speak, and, people around get wowed!? Her fluency was top-notch, she sounded confident, you know how you sound when you know what you are saying? Guy fell in love, not just with her looks, but, with her level of reason. He confronted the stay-home babe, asked her a few witty questions which she wasn’t able to answer, he smiled and told her he wasn’t disappointed. He told her categorically that a lady crept into his life recently, and, has swept him off his feet, and, he is scared he would have to leave her for the new lady. You need to hear her sound helpless, her level of mediocrity has left her with nothing, to say, she would have felt entitled in a way, or, the other to the guy’s money all along, all she kept saying was “I will change”, is it not getting late?

       I am not saying seeing these TV shows is bad, at least, having fun is normal. But, are you doing what is right at the right time? Are you an empress building an empire for yourself? Are we contributing to our relationships positively? Are we complementing these guys? These are questions we ladies need to start asking ourselves as it’s not too late to do what is right. This message goes both ways, we all need to complement each other in a way, or, the other. But, as for ladies, we have to wake up and address this as soon as possible.